If making love is formulating
and formulating is creating,
can one
make,
create
or formulate love
by simply having sex?

makingLOVE is building foundations so sex is never the center of our circle;
but rather rays of illumination like that of the sun,
you enhance the beauty of my light.

makingLOVE is sitting at the park reading Skekum, Fanon and Ani, building and exchanging energies.

makingLOVE is eating dinner with the family as you glide your hand between my legs going unnoticed by anyone. Then later sucking on my neck as I wash the dishes and you dry.

makingLOVE is feeding babies in the middle of the night.

makingLOVE is sitting in bed reading night time stories to the children. makingLOVE is working together, cleansing together and sharing responsibilities.

makingLOVE is sitting in the hospital at 3.a.m. falling asleep on your shoulder as you hold Mama’s hand ’round midnight and we wait for the doctor to return with a diagnosis.

makingLOVE is making decisions together and honoring them.

makingLOVE is when I bite my tongue and let you discipline our boy so he can grow up to be in your image, a good man.

makingLOVE is running a business and a family together. makingLOVE is cherishing the partnerships that we have created and holding them sacred.

makingLOVE is learning together, building the future together and staying aligned.

makingLOVE is not just listening when your lover speaks, but learning so you may grow as one breath.

makingLOVE is not always agreeing; but it is acknowledging individuality and respecting difference.

makingLOVE is apologizing when you know you wrong and remaining objective when you think you right.

makingLOVE is having patience when situations are not as you would like and having foresight to progress destinies.

makingLOVE is teaching and leading by example.

makingLOVE is when you nurse my battered wings and anoint my broken spirit keeping me warmly nurtured in your grace until I am healthy enough to take flight again.

makingLOVE is praying together and mediating together so we may achieve a better relationship with our inner selves, nature and the universe.

makingLOVE is walking in the rain as Aset’s purifier purges our souls and grows our flowers.

makingLOVE is not jumping to conclusions, but giving the benefit of the doubt.

makingLOVE is the sore soldier eyes of Gil Scott Heron being kissed by the soft succulent affection of Sarah Vaughn and then re-energized with the charisma of Sweet Honey in the Rock.

makingLOVE is not playing games or trickery. makingLOVE is being straight up and straight forward.

makingLOVE is looking through another finding weaknesses and building them up, finding strengths and magnifying them.

makingLOVE is not “I told you so,” nor is it blame, guilt or shame.
makingLOVE is cultivation without suffocation or humiliation.
makingLOVE is positive reinforcement.

makingLOVE is freedom not control.

makingLOVE is not prejudgment or persecution. makingLOVE is pursuing preservation.

makingLOVE is supporting each others experimentation even when you are unsure of the conclusions. Sometimes, makingLOVE is letting me fall.

makingLOVE is countless years of support and love and fights and tears and forgiveness.
makingLOVE is learning how to rejuvenate and restore.

makingLOVE is when you came inside of me and together we conceived life.

makingLOVE is building nations.

makingLOVE is building each others nation.

makingLOVE is honoring the laws that we have set down for each other, conducting ourselves righteously and checking each other when we don’t. makingLOVE is telling the truth, finding balance, striving for harmony and exhibiting reciprocity.
makingLOVE is Ma’at.

makingLOVE is when I am with you even when I am not with you, I am with you, makingLOVE.

I love, my love, to create love, never forsake love

I wish all my brothas and sistas could learn to love makingLOVE
As I do.

When I am making it with you.

Growing inside your grass

As you rain inside my sweet wild fire honeydews.

Stephanie Gollman © 1995
All rights reserved.

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